Like I said, I am sorry if I sound a little harsh... I just think it's a shame when we have to buy 2 or more sets of wheels before we learn some of our lessons. Of all the wheels mentioned here, I personally think Sean's KMCs are a great value! On those wheels, the area that I would call the "rub rim"

is the thickest.
The countersteers (which look great) has the thinest area/steel wheel type lip - (I have bought 8 of these guys already and know how fragile they can be! If they had a flat surface of about 1 inch on the lip - these things would be great. But they don't and they tend to get torn up when they rub up against rocks. The side biters have a decent thickness there but I would think that the alternating height may cause some premature rash. The octane is a bit thiner than I would want.
Your aesthetic tastes are important too. I wouldn't want to wear an ugly wheel myself.
Also, I know Sean and I may work our trucks a bit more than the average guy but I have seen many guys that go wheeling once and tear up a wheel on their first ride.
One other point. I personally think that finding a finish that you will be able to touch up with a rattle can is an good thing too. A nice powder coated wheel looks like shit if you can't touch up some occasional rash.
Hope that helps!